Does your mind draw a blank when you’re talking to your crush?
So many thoughts rush to your head when you’re talking to your crush, one of the frequent ones being, “oh no, what do I say?”
Getting to know your crush can be an exciting and nerve-wracking feeling all at the same time. Sometimes, you may find yourself in awkward silence, not knowing what to say (no, thank you).
We, as humans, deeply desire emotional intimacy, which is why I have put together 14 questions to ask your crush. Grab some wine and cozy into these nostalgic conversations to connect with your crush on a deeper level.
HOT TIP: If your conversation takes a turn, and you aren’t sure where it’s headed, just listen. You always look like a great communicator when you listen.
1) Who is the one person in the world that knows you better than anyone else?
It could be one of their family members, childhood friends, co-workers, or maybe even their hairstylists. Their answers could reveal the depth of their relationship with others and the kind of relationships they seek with others.
2) Where is your favourite place?
Everyone has a special place, a place where they go to disconnect from reality, clear their mind and connect with their deeper self; it could be their grand ma’s house where they spent their summers or only a place where they feel relaxed, or that special place perhaps is their dream city or a vacation spot.
3) If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
Maybe your crush has always wanted to learn a musical instrument or a language? Upon asking this question to a friend, she immediately replied, ” I wish I had skipped school more often. I could have missed a day and still learned what I needed to.”
Get creative with this one 🙂
4) Complete the sentence: I wish I had someone with whom I can share…
Let yourself be surprised with this one! Maybe your crush is a foodie and wants to explore their love for food with someone. Or, they love dancing in front of the mirror and wished they had someone to share their goofy side with.
5) Share a positive characteristic you consider about your crush.
Tell them what you admire and respect about them. Giving compliments and being vocal about them deepens the bond between any two people almost instantly. Maybe you like that they are always on time, keep their word, or they make you laugh. Use this as an opportunity to compliment the things you like about them.
6) What’s the song you listen to on repeat? (<333333)
Listening to someone’s favourite song, it’s like mentally holding their hand. There is not a deeper intimacy than listening to your favourite music together.
7) For what in life do you feel most grateful?
Gratitude is an emotion that makes a person feel happier. Tap into the simplistic beautiful things of life by unlocking the magic in this question.
8) Do you have a favourite book? A line in a piece of literature? A poem? Why is it special to you?
My favourite!!
Maybe it’s a book that remained with them ever since they read it or a story that influenced their life somehow, or perhaps they love to read travel books to learn about different people and cultures around the world. Di
9) If you could invite anyone in the world to dinner ( dead or alive) who’d it be?
What a fun question! Your crush could name their favourite celebrity, a god, or it could be something more personal like a deceased loved one they wished to spend more time with.
10) If you could take one day off to do anything you want, how would you spend the day?
I once asked my friend this question curious to know how’d she spend her perfect day. Her response was so profound, “I would not like to do, I would just like to be. To have a planless day, to live in the moment, to enjoy the company of my loved ones unrushed, to stop and smell the flowers.”
Her response was of the most beautiful perspectives on the question.
11) What is the most beautiful thing in the world?
We are all so different from each other and it’s these differences that makes us so beautiful and unique. Asking someone what’s the most beautiful thing in the world invites you into your crush’s world perspective.
12) What would you consider to be your deepest fear?
We cannot know a person’s life and its challenges at a glimpse. We all carry our own deep fears and insecurities within us. Through this question, it opens up space for being vulnerable, leading to a more meaningful conversation.
13) If you died tomorrow, what would you wish you had done?
This question opens up a person’s deepest desires. Not always are we vocal about our dreams in fear of it being silly, made fun of or even leaving it for tomorrow. Life can be so unexpected. If we are brave enough to follow our heart, it leads us to a beautiful destination. This question could spark a little fire in both of you to carpe diem!!
14) What scene in a movie has evoked the most feelings out of you?
We all have a movie that has moved us, inspired and sparked an emotion in some way or other. It could be a character, story, theme or a mood. Watching that movie can make them slip into their little world. Discussing themes, plots and story of your movies will add on to the fun and depth of the conversation.
Have you ever thought of asking any of these questions to your crush? Do you have any questions that you’d like to add? Let me know in the comments below 🙂
Sending the biggest hugs your way 🙂
P.S.
xx
Yachna
(Picture Credits in the order they appear: Featured Image in.a.relationship.with.freedom, wildchldd, Paris photo by Anthony Delanoix, viintageheart, vintageefeeling, and The Curious Case of Benjamin Button).
This is amazing. My stomach goes in knots thinking of speaking to my crush, let alone having a conversation. These questions are amazing and so well thought. I cannot to implement these very soon (have an upcoming date next week). Thank you so much. Will come back here and tell you how these worked.
Yachna, thank you for being you.