“ I started Cravings because I wanted something for myself. I wanted something John didn’t buy.”

I love Chrissy Teigen for a lot of reasons. She has consistently been hilarious, brutally honest and very relatable about a ton of issues on her social media. But, the newest reason to love her? Her tweet about the reason she started her cookbook, Cravings.

Teigen reveals the reason she started Cravings was she wanted to have something that John didn’t buy for her. And honestly, is there a more honest and vulnerable statement?

That statement could have come from every “housewife” who started their own side business to feel validated and it disheartened me.

This statement was just another reminder for me, that as humans we have a burning desire for validation and approval. Regardless of one’s social status. 

And, then I was reminded that everything that we do in our lives is a direct result of a type of approval that we look for from it. We look for approval from the people around us. Friends. Family. Spouse.

And, on the off chance that we don’t get that validation, we crumble.

Then, this reminded me of my own need for validation.

Up until I was 20, I relied solely on my parents to buy me everything. And, I mean LITERALLY everything.

It wasn’t until I got my first pay cheque working that something inside me started to change.

I remember feeling proud. It was the first time I “earned” something in life. It felt like I had accomplished something to earn my family’s validation.Being able to make my own money meant everything to me from then. It was a self- validation that I didn’t even know I needed. Until, I got it.

In fact, I started this blog because I needed to be something more than a corporate sell out. I remember having sleepless nights trying to wrap my mind around the idea that my day job was all that I amounted to. I felt small. I needed to prove to myself and others that I was more than what I did for a living.

I needed to feel happy again.

And, happy is exactly how I feel, every time I am ‘working’ on my blog. It’s meditative for me.To have this blog, to get to be a part of the process from start to finish, to see something go from an idea to a reality, I love that.

And, knowing that ANYONE reads my blog, brings a HUGE smile on my face. It makes me happy. I feel validated.

…And, this is what I imagine Teigen meant when she said, that she wanted something just for herself.

Her passion project.

For her, it was Cravings. For me, it’s my blog.

What’s yours?

 I would love to hear your stories in the comments below.

xx

Yachna