6 Things I’ve Stopped Doing For Peaceful Life

Have you ever felt like being happy is not enough?

Well, I have.

I’ve been thinking about what really matters in life.

And you know what?

Being happy all the time isn’t it.

What’s more important is feeling at peace with your life and having no regrets or longing for something else.

I’ve consciously poured my energy into positivity, productivity, consistency, and hard work.

And the result?

There is a lot more calmness, peace, and clarity in my life. It’s amazing what a little bit of focus and effort can do.

My ultimate goal is to transform into a more positive, calm, and creative version of myself.

And to achieve that, I had to make some changes.

For starters, I stopped doing things these SIX things that were holding me back and keeping me from living a peaceful and fulfilled life

1. Continuously live in my comfort zone

I remember being stuck in a 9 to 5 job; every day felt like the same old thing.

Wake up at 7 am, head to the office, take a lunch break at 12:15 pm, wrap up work at 5 pm, make dinner, and get ready to do it all over again.

Ugh, it was incredibly boring and unchallenging.

But here’s what I learned: your comfort zone may feel safe and cozy, but it’s dangerous. It stunts your personal growth and development and holds back progress. Sticking to familiarity means you’re not moving forward.

You must step into the unknown and take the road less travelled to evolve. It’s time to challenge yourself and break free from the monotony.

Embrace change, and you’ll find your days filled with growth, progress, and fulfillment.

2. Compare where I am in life to where others are

Instagram is to blame. Whenever I open it up, I see someone celebrating Christmas in London, going on a trip with their girl gang to Switzerland, or attending Lana Del Rey’s concert in Paris.

It makes me feel like they’re making money, travelling the world, and falling in love while I’m not doing anything worth mentioning.

And then, I start to expect the same things for myself based on what I see.

But here’s the thing, my friend – we have the power to change this.

Instead of spending hours scrolling through our feeds, we can focus on what truly matters, whether it’s spending quality time with family and friends, growing our businesses, or simply enjoying the beauty of nature.

So, let’s put social media on the back burner and focus on what makes life genuinely peaceful.

3. Staying quiet when something/someone has bothered me

Have you ever felt like bottling up your emotions when deeply hurt? I know I have.

As an INFJ, I tend to give the silent treatment, become ice cold and slam the door shut, cutting off all contact and unfollowing people from social media.

It’s like they never existed in my life.

But the truth is, I don’t hate them. I feel nothing towards them.

I used to suppress my emotions and deal with them through writing. However, I’ve realized it’s not the healthiest way to cope.

Now, I’m learning to communicate openly and address my problems head-on instead of cutting people off without warning.

It’s a process, but I’m getting there.

4. Overthinking about past & future events

It’s 3 am. You are wide awake and can’t seem to catch a break from your racing thoughts. You are beating yourself over what could’ve been, all the things you could have done. Or, you are paralyzed with stress and worries about tomorrow.

Trust me, I know how tough it is to shake off that feeling.

But guess what?

I’ve got a little secret that has helped me a lot.

Instead of dwelling on things I cannot control, I pour my energy into creating things that bring me purpose and joy.

Starting this blog is one way I channel my energy into something meaningful. And you can do it too!

5. Continuously give people chances over & over again

Stop giving people third, fourth, and fifth chances ONLY for them to be creative with how they can disappoint you again. I am not a big believer in second chances. If the past has taught me anything, it’s this: people who genuinely care for you won’t put themselves in a position to disappoint you, hurt you, or worse, lose you forever.

6. Check my phone first thing in the morning

Or, the last thing before I go to bed.

I must admit that I don’t follow this all the time, but I’m working on it.

Lately, I’ve been trying to get into the habit of journaling before going to bed. It’s a great way to unwind and reflect on my day.

To make things easier, I’ve been using some healing journaling prompts that help me stay focused and avoid getting sidetracked by random YouTube videos.

Of course, there are nights when I give in to temptation and end up watching Heart Evangelista’s vlogs or drooling over a cheesy garlic bread recipe. But hey, progress is progress, right?